This week has been…peaceful, and I’m honestly surprised by it. Sunday I decided to plunge back into Gabrielle Bernstein’s Super Attractor for a second go-around. You see, the first attempt I made at tackling her guided self-help book ended after two weeks and completing only one chapter. To say my life became overwhelming busy during that time, which is what prompted my desire to return to Gabby’s teachings, is an understatement. And, unfortunate for me, I allowed the stresses of work and my relationships with others to negatively take control of my life.
Over the course of the two weeks I diligently followed Gabby’s teachings, I noticed positive changes within myself. My work-life balance was much easier to manage, and my relationship with my husband grew stronger. Now I strive to once again feel grounded, centered, and in complete control of my life.
“What you believe, you receive.”– Gabrielle Bernstein
I believe that if I exude confidence and am a beacon of positive light, that others will recognize my new-found confidence and share in my glow. In the few days that I have chosen to follow Gabby’s teachings, I have noticed just that. However, it’s not simply an act of me being kind to others, it’s showing kindness and love to myself.
Self-care is of utmost importance. If we don’t take care of the self, we will be unable to take care of others. I have acknowledged this and have been actively practicing acts of self care to prevent further damage to my mind and body.
One of my biggest setbacks is constantly worrying about things out of my circle of control. I will harp on issues that immediately impact me, but I do not often offer solutions or seek assistance when needed. Instead, I dig a hole and bury myself deep within all of my complaints and worries. It’s not a healthy mindset and my body and mind have been negatively impacted so much so that I have now spent thousands of dollars on dental work this year to correct severe damage of my teeth caused by bruxism, or the grinding or clenching of teeth.
To prevent myself from grinding or clenching my teeth, I have taken some notes from Gabby’s teachings, as well as some tried and true tricks that have helped me settle my imaginative and active mind.
First and foremost, I have made an effort to get a good night’s rest. This means calling it a night no later than 10:30 and getting at least seven hours of active sleep. Being a night owl, this has presented challenges, but with a little help from a cup of nighttime tea, I have been able to fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer.
Secondly, I make sure to read before bed. This allows me to forget about the day’s struggles, as well as whatever tasks I may need to accomplish the next day. So that means I’m no longer frantically worrying about what I’m going to eat for lunch the following day or what’s on my work agenda before bed. My mind is at ease.
Third, my husband found stress relief supplements at our local Target store. Whether they’re a placebo or the real deal, all I can tell you is that after I chew one (they’re gummies), I can focus on the task at hand with a clear and open mind.
Now, the biggest change to help me to take care of myself comes straight from Gabrielle Bernstein’s teachings. In her books she talks endlessly about having a positive outlook and finding your ~ing. There are plenty of ways to do this, and she presents these methods in her books, but the one shift that has helped me the most is to acknowledge a negative thought when it is presented, then thank myself for having the thought thus turning what could have been a severely negative moment into a more positive one. When I am faced with a negative thought, I actively acknowledge it, then thank myself for the thought and remind myself of who I am. So far this week it has brought on loads of positive responses from myself, my husband, and my colleagues.
All it takes is a simple change. You have to want it. If you don’t have the will, you will never achieve it. I know that sounds cliche, but it’s the truth. If you continuously talk about how you want to change your mindset but never take action to make that change, you’re going to continue down the dark path you’re traveling on. It’s a reality that needs to be addressed, and frankly, I was and am over following that path. So, I chose to make a change. I didn’t invite others to join me by telling them this is what I am attempting to do; I’m just doing it. All my husband knows is that I’m reading that self-help book again and I’m making more of an effort to stop harboring negativity.
With all that said, that’s why I’m here. I chose to start this blog as a way to hold myself accountable and to share with others on my journey towards leading a more positive and meaningful life. This is me, raw and in the flesh, and if you’re struggling like I have been, I challenge you to take baby steps toward a new you. This is your time to shine. This is your time to create the life you dream of. Stop sitting around and waiting for it to happen, whatever it is; just go for it! You can do it! I believe in you and I know you believe in you, too, even if you’re not convinced right now that you have it in you. You’ve got this!